Victoria Mexcur LCMHCS, LIMHP


These are books and and other resources that I have  read, used, or heard from clients that were helpful in their healing journey and wanted to be part of the collective sharing.

Consider these as “give aways” for you about the many aspects of your healing journey.

These are NOT to replace therapy; these are here as resources to help support you in the therapeutic process from the collective of people in the healing space.

If you are having a mental health crisis, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. These resources are not intended to replace therapy with a licensed professional.

Mecklenburg County Mobile Crisis: 704-566-3410 (option #1)

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988

Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Veteran Crisis Hotline: 988, then press 1 for direct hotline

I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum

State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again by Lysa TerKeurst

Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness by Dr. Fred Luskins

Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski
Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa Marin
“The New Rules of Marriage” Terry Real, LCSW,
Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft
5 love languages, Gary Chapman

Forgiveness: How the Right Communication Repairs Relationships | Stanford Graduate School of Business

The Body keeps score, Bassel Van der Kolk MD
Garbage Bag Suitcase Shenandoah Chefalo
Life After Suicide, Jennifer Ashton M.D.
The Body is Not An Apology, Sonya Renee Taylor
Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad, Day, Judith Viorst and Ray Cruz
The Giving Tree, Shel Silverstein
The Bridge, by Edwin Friedman
Good Morning Monster, Catherine Gildiner, Deborah Burgess, et al.
The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog Bruce D. Perry
Man’s Search for meaning Viktor Frankl
4 Agreements Don Miguel Ruiz
Where ever you go there you are, Jon Kabat Zin
Tuesday With Morrie, Mitch Albom
The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg
The subtle art of not giving a F***, Mark Manson, Roger Wayne, et al.
Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki
Ikigai, Hector Garcia Francesco miralles
The Alchemist Paulo Coelho
The Happiest man on earth, eddie jaku
Its On me- The melennial therapist
Einstein and the Rabbi, Naomi Levy
Atomic habits, James Clear
Returning to the Lakota Way: Old values to save the modern world, Joseph Marshall III
War and Peace, Leo Tolstoy
The happiness project: Gretchen Rubin
Choosing Simplicity: real people finding peace, Linda Breen Pierce
Strong and Weak: Embracing a Life of Love, Risk and True Flourish, Andy Crouch
People Making: Virginia Satir and Barry Ives
Once a warrior always a warrior, Navigating the transition, Charles Hoge
Courage after Fire: Coping strategies from troops returning from Iraq, Keith Armstrong, Dr. Suzanne Best
Slowing Down to the speed of life: Richard Carlson
Authentic Happiness: Martin EP Seligman
Learned Optimism: Martin Seligman
No Mud, No lotus: the art of transforming suffering, Thich Nhat Hanh
Peace in every step: the path of mindfulness in everyday life, Thich Nhat, Hanh
Radical Candor, Kim Scott
When bad things happen to good people, Harold S. Kushner

Happier: with Gretchen Rubin

The Happiness Lab

The hilarious world of depression

Where should we begin

We can do hard things

On Purpose

UnF*ck your Brain

In the Circle (recovery based)

Think Again

How to talk to people

Ten Percent Happier

Nothing Much Happens (stories for sleep)

Get Sleepy

These Fukken Feelings Podcast

The Subtle Art of Not giving a F*ck (author podcast)

Am I doing it wrong?

Finding Mastery

The science of happiness

Unlocking Us with Brene Brown

Sober Awkward
Fair Play Card deck
The Mindful self compassion workbook
{The And} cards
The Set Boundaries Workbook by Nedra Tawwab
Breaking Free by Pia Mellody
The Hold Me Tight Workbook by Dr. Sue Johnson
Thoughfulls: daily pop up motivation inspiration cards

This Naked Mind for alcohol addiction.
The heart of addiction by Lance Dodes
Chasing the Scream by Johan Hari
Recovery by Russell Brand
The sober Truth by Lance Dodes and Zachary Dodes
Mindfulness and the 12 steps
Recovery 2.0, Tommy Rosen
A man’s way through the 12 steps
Staying Sober, Terence Gorski
12 smart things to do when the booze and drugs are gone: Allen Berger
12 stupid things that mess up recovery, allen berger
Wellbriety Movement
Meditation with Native American Elders: the four seasons, 4 directions mediations, the red road workbooks, The red road to wellbriety book, 365 days walking the red road.
Group Locations nation wide (in person and virtual)
Alcoholics Anonymous (
Big Book, 24 hours a day
NAWS : Find a meeting (Narcotics Anonymous meetings and resources)
NA workbook through the steps, NA Basic Steps, daily reflections
SMART Recovery (meetings/groups finder, great worksheets and workbooks) SMART Recovery is based on the practices of REBT/CBT and is not spiritually based.